I have a 9 month old baby girl. I am EBF her and trying to get her to base. But, I was told by a nutritionist that we have to get her eating or she is going have a food aversion and an eating problem. I have tried bananas, she refuses completely. I tried carrots and she ate a little but failed with increase diarrhea and a rash on her face. I tried pears and she seemed to like it for 2 days and the 3rd day, she refused. But, I did notice more hiccups and I think that her belly hurt. I talked to the nutritionist and she had some NUTRA sent to my house. I have been trying it with BM and she does not want to eat it. I have tried sticking fruit in a mesh looking thing so that she can chew on it. She refused it and threw it on the floor. I just had patch testing done and she reacted to A lot of stuff. She reacted to Soy, Milk, Wheat and Egg BIG TIME!! She has major FPIES to Rice and Oat. She also reacted to barley, white potato, chicken, turkey, beef, apples, green beans, peas, carrots, tomato, The only ones that she did not react to is corn and banana. But, I am not so sure about corn. I pretty sure she has reacted to it also. I am just not sure what I should do? Should I continue to just try Nutra daily and continue to try and get her to base or should I try a new food that may be more appealing to her? Or, should I stop all together and wait till she is a little older? I
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Also, any tricks on how to get them to eat, would be helpful.
Honestly, she may just need time. If it is becoming more frustrating than it is doing good, take a break. We struggled with B when she was a baby in this dept at different times, and that was always my rule (for my sanity as much as hers!) The minute that eating became more of a struggle than an "Adventure" or pleasurable experience, we were done. Sometimes, that meant we were done for a few hours. Sometimes that meant we were done for the day. Other times that meant for a longer food break of a few weeks or a couple of months.
In determining this, we looked at the patterns. Say she was at baseline, or just about there. And that I had been trying to feed her something every day for one week, with each day taking breaks when it got frustrating and trying later in the day. If this was the scenario and she was getting more frustrated, that told me it was time for a longer break. And so on. . .
As for when we were actually at the table and trying, we did a lot of distraction. I did baby signing with her in the context of eating and sometimes that helped to engage her and interest her more in it. I sang songs (oh the songs I made up!) constantly, and did goofy stuff, in an effort to try and relax the mood and make it fun. Some mamas have had success letting their babies play with the food and "feeding" themselves when the little ones seem to be having trouble trusting foods. And no pressure on them to eat, just start with getting her to touch the food, or even just smell the food. And then maybe get her to play with it. And then maybe lick it. . . .etc. Break down the steps and go with your gut in figuring out what she is ready for--- you will know by your mama instincts and by following your LO's cues. You can read her better than anyone, so tune into her and let your own gut guide you, not what people are pressuring you to do. For instance, when B had her first mama-made cookie (corn, bananas and arrowroot!) she did not swallow or chew it well. We "practiced" every day with those and I got super good at doing the finger sweep (she would cheek the little bits once she would start taking them, even if chewed up, and refuse to swallow)-- if she chewed for a certain period of time and I couldn't get her to swallow (stroking her jaw, drinking from an uncovered cup, encouraging her to swallow, etc), I would finger sweep her mouth and we would go and do something that she really liked to do. And we would try again the next day. Eventually, she started swallowing and eventually I didn't have to do the "tricks" to get her to swallow.
I always looked at it this way-- with how volatile and unpredictable FPIES can be, it is no WONDER kids develop these aversions, whether they be short lived or whether it is something that a little one struggles with for some time. There is no reason to essentially push a child to eat when he/she is beyond the point of frustration and it is no longer fun. I was always worried that if I pushed too hard, then she would develop aversions from that!! I know it is slow, painfully slow, and I know there are very few people that likely understand (other than the mamas who have been there). But remember that you are her mama and you do know her best--- you will know when and how to use the tools available to you (like dietitians, etc) but your best tool will always be listening to your daughter's cues and signals.
Sorry you're having such trouble getting her to let you put food in her mouth! We had a lot of issues with Matthew, and ended up going to occupational therapy for it. He always wants to be in control, has texture issues, and had a tongue thrust problem. Even if you could get past his defenses and sneak some food in, his little tongue would just pop it right back out. I wrote about a lot of tips we learned in occupational therapy on Matthew's website, if you're interested. Here's the link to the updates page: http://fpies.bofferding.net/previous-updates.html
I talk about our frustration with his eating (if you want to see if there are any similarities) on the Oct. 6th and Nov. 8th posts. Our OT appointment with some helpful strategies we learned is in the Nov. 22nd post, and talking about how quickly we saw a turn around is in the Dec. 8th post.
I hope this helps, and if you have any questions just let me know...good luck!